Sexuality and Gender you gay

So the other day I got drawn into a very short lived conversation about male characters talking in the lesbian chatroom. Although I couldn’t possibly understand why a male character would be in the lesbian chatroom and find it slightly obnoxious, it doesn’t in the least bit upset me. I kinda made this comment and someone responded:

“(I dont understand why herms and shemales get a pass for most 'gay' females on f-list, but that's all about preferences it seems.)”

I figured I’d enlighten this person and the rest of you, because it’s really simple.

But first, we need to understand sexuality and gender. Gender defines sexuality, since sexuality is what gender you’re attracted to.  So most people see gender as just a dichotomy, which is what sexuality has been predominantly defined as: Male and Female. In this dichotomy there are only really four combinations (if you include neither), you either only like the same gender, only like the opposite gender, like both, or like neither. Now this obviously is ranking categories instead of quantifiable ones, but if you quantified it into “Homosexual feelings, Heterosexual feelings” and you could fit it onto a continuum  (figure 1)or a graph (figure 2).

Figure 2

The continuum is just like two parts of the graph. The graph gives you more information, giving you more of “zones” of sexuality, also including asexuality in the mix (Which is why I like it better). Each zone gives you information about how much someone likes each gender, so maybe you have some heterosexual feelings but really it’s easier to label you as gay since you’d only go for the same gender in the end. It’s nifty! But back to the main event!

So what about Shemales? F/Herms? M/Herms? Cunt boys? Trans? Where do they fit into all this. Well I’d  put them on a continuum either defined by female physical attributes  or male physical attributes (Figure 3). The numbers, like the other figures, are all made up just to give a demonstration, none of this is collected data or quantified numbers based on a model.

So, this is all still based on the dichotomy. However, when we look at this, it shows us the problem. To make a continuum you’d have to still base all genders on the dichotomy, implying that the only true genders are male and female and the rest are mismatches of the two. However ignorant this may seem, it probably falls in line better with what’s going on biologically. However, I don’t really care to base it on the dichotomy biological reasons or not.

So back to the original questions, why do shemales and herms give a pass? Well, it’s because the sexualities are based on the two genders and as you can see there are MANY. You’d have to have more than just “homosexual and heterosexual” in fact, that doesn’t really tell us about the person’s gender. Cuntboys who like cuntboys would be “Same sex” interested right? But does that really fit the connotation we understand of homosexual?

So what you’d have to do then is to make MORE categories. Here are some examples:

Homomensexual: Man liking man

Homofemalesexual: Female liking female

HomoM/hermsexual: Male herms that like male herms.

Bicuntboy/shemale sexual: Only like cuntboys and shemales

And so on…

This is incredibly tedious and probably not so handy for the real world since they already have trouble being politically correct towards bisexuals. You also have to consider that some of these sexualities would probably never be touched… well, most likely they wouldn’t.

So…. Basically the reasoning for shemales and F/herms getting under the radars of gays is that…. Gay just isn’t a specific enough sexuality to encompass all the genderss listened on this site. How I’d like to look at it is that  if someone who posts themselves as gay that probably means they at least want a mostly female body. Cuntboys and M/herms don’t count under this understanding. However, as our original commenter said, it’s all probably preference.  That being said you’ll just have to learn each person’s preference on your own or convince F-list to make a sexuality system that encompasses all the genders…. I suggest the earlier route.

Sincerely

Player of Tillia Francisco

Role-playing and Writing

So many of my followers are probably aware, if they are still following, that I disappointed almost entirely. Why is that? Well mostly because I didn't feel I was getting very much response over my blogs and wished I had a more active fan-base. But, also, because I switched role-playing dimensions.

So why was that? Well back in what December 14 the yahoo chats were ended and I was left in a peculiar spot of the choice of having to try and find a new chatroom to role-play in or to give up role-play all together. Chips were going into giving up role-play as I signed up to things I didn't understand and tried to get role-play started with previously dead leads until someone said "Oh I use f-list" if you don't know what f-list is, look it up, but it provides a very different environment. Namely, most people on there WANT TO ROLE-PLAY.

What changed? Well I could make chats, I could join chatrooms that were almost entirely about role-play, and I could look people up with similar "kinks" as I had to role-play. Wow, what a change. However soon into this discovery I was left with the weird feeling that really lingered in the back of my head for a long time, was role-play a crutch to keep me from seriously stocking time into writing? Clearly it was.

Role-playing, as fun as it can be, is not serious writing. Written dialogue, plot, scenes, tends to be radically bipolar in their quality and so consistent in their unpublishability that it's really silly to think that what anyone is doing in role-play is writing some fantastic story. Really, anyone who thinks so, time to get over the facts you're not being an expert writer by role-playing. Online role-play is fun, it can have merit, it can even get you used to typing but in the end the best way to practice writing is to just fucking do it. Role-play serves as not a practice for writing but a way to waste time in a mindless, fun, attention getting way. Really, I suggest to anyone who reads this, don't be in the delusion that role-play is going to help you become a better writer. Archers don't play wii archery to practice archery, they just fucking go out and shoot things. If that analogy doesn't help you, then try beating yourself with a hot toaster struddle. I denounce role-playing (NOT LARP) and will never do it again. Good day.

-<3

The oddity that is people

Ever since I made a new set of aliases for my role-play that have the words role-play in them I've found that people pm me without me even having to post an ad about role-play. This really was brilliant, especially when I put the word "female" in it people jumped to pm me. However great this is, it's been a mixed bag. Now that I have the word female and role-play in my alias I tend to get a lot of people whom I'd never role-play with. My grammar and spelling suck probably more than most people, however I do believe that I have reached a certain level of spelling or grammar that it is at least obvious how hard I try to maintain it. Justification for my bad grammar or not, I tend to judge people pretty harshly if they pm me. The judgement I use in pms tend to revolve around font size and grammar. The basic grammar I'm looking for is capitalization and endings on sentences. This is quite the basic grammar and spelling which should also include purposely spelling words wrong for the sake of laziness as a prereq. It's so funny though how if someone successfully identifies me as being judgmental they think they have me in some sort of corner. Now that they've identified me as judgmental they thing they have me on the ropes, that I must either defend myself or withdraw my judgments for simply being judgmental is too horrible to ever accept as a truth. However, I find my judgmental behavior to be a great and wonderful tool. It lets me throw out role-play requests that are simple not worth my time. The negative connotation that goes along with the idea of judgmental is one that is very telling of whether or not the speaker understands the word judgment. To judge something is a very important skill. For instance, judges in our court of law are not seen as evil horrible people for being judgmental but rather upholders of justice. So do I see myself as upholding justice? No not at all, there is a better comparison. The judgmental attitude of a boss whom is hiring new employs will easily give them an edge up on not hiring people whom will be a waste of money to train. This judgmental attitude saves them huge amounts of time and money therefor making it one of their most valued aspects as a person. So, when it comes to being judgmental I see it as nothing but a compliment. Anyone who thinks I must concede must rethink their position and get a new understanding of judgmental behavior.

Actual conversation which inspired this blog:
GOTYA: So just because of my font....you are rejecting me

roleplays_female_characters: Your grammar is pretty bad too.

GOTYA: how so

roleplays_female_characters: How so.*****
roleplays_female_characters: So just because of my font... you are rejecting me.
roleplays_female_characters: ****

GOTYA: What do you want me to say that you would consider proper grammer

roleplays_female_characters: I mean.
roleplays_female_characters: You're just out of the consideration.
roleplays_female_characters: You had your chance when you got here and failed.
roleplays_female_characters: You WILL NOT role-play with me.

GOTYA: Whatever I don't have time for your judgemental attitude

roleplays_female_characters: Okay well then don't let me take it. Have a nice day 

GOTYA: Very well but you were the one with the judgemental attitude not me

roleplays_female_characters: I am very happy with my judgemental attitude.
roleplays_female_characters: It's a very helpful tool to me, so just labeling it judgemental isn't an effective way to get me to change my opinion.

GOTYA: Ok but I don't see how you can find anyone to rp with

roleplays_female_characters: Well.
roleplays_female_characters: People come with not silly fonts and proper attempts at grammar.

End of actual conversation which inspired this blog:

Mutli-player role-play, an analysis and discussion

It often comes up that I sit in huge defense of the one liners in the role-play world. This might seem weird me being a role-player who does only multi-paragraph role-play and find one lining as revolting on site as all the other elitist, but let me explain myself. I don't know if it's in my blood but the things I tend to find the most fault in is anything condescending. I feel I've lost loyalty for the people who are my peers (I hate loyalty so that's fine with me), which inspired me in this post to at the very least show some open criticisms of all groups. However, this isn't a post specific to knocking down all the different groups of role-players, it only came to mind that maybe I should include it in this post. No this post for talking about multi-player role-playing!

I've noticed myself that I personally find my role-plays to 99% of the time (made up statistic) be one on one role-play. There could be many possible reasons for this, but to be fair I'll approach this from a way that really slinks through the muck and seconds as a analysis and cut up of the different role-play groups. To get right to it, the three groups I'll analyze are called.

One liners

Semi paragraphers and

Para to multiparagraphers

This all is really straight forward if you don't understand. The one liners post things that generally go from one to two lines, the semi paragraphers make it slightly above this but not to what we'd call a paragraph and the para to multiparagraphers reach a paragraph and beyond. However simple this may seem however we must explain exactly what we mean by "paragraph." Although one liner is pretty easy to understand, what designates a paragraph? It's funny because wikipedia says it's "one line or more" but goes on to say that it has to do whether or not you've started a "new line." This however doesn't seem to hold up as quite right, at least for role-playing terms (and I suspect english class). So, lets define it for role-playing clearly. A paragraph tends to be well, somewhere around six (I don't know if this feels right, please give any thought on this subject) and above lines. This can be dictated however by whether or not you have a word limit to each individual "post," a post being in a private message or chatroom how many words or units you're allowed to type before it either won't allow you more or will just not show it to the rest of the chatters. So, it can vary, but that tends to be a paragraph. So a semi paragrapher tends to be someone who makes it halfway through a post. It's easy to see than a multi-paragrapher would be someone who posts more than two post lengths (this can be further complicated by things like, yahoo chatrooms and yahoo private messages have different post lengths). However, the divisions tend to be clear. Before I move on, one more thing to make clear is that paragraph role-players and multi-paragraph role-players tend to be separate groups but for the sake of understanding this particular post it's easier to lump them together. Besides, most tend to be okay with one or the other. I've even seen a lot settle for semi-paragraph but this is not nearly as common as para and multi-para. So, lets analyze the groups real quick.

It's easy to see the appeal of one lining. It's FAST. You can go through scenes lightning quick, letting you jump through characters actions. From what I've noticed it tends to be action based. "I do this, you do that. He did this, she does that." that sort of thing. This leaves most description out of the question. Although I've shown this to be a state of "infancy" for role-players in previous blogs, where they grow up and go through the other stages to become 'elitists,' let me say this isn't always true. Some people never leave this state and stay happily in it.

So, semi paragraph role-players. This is actually very similar to one liners in my view (It's why I tend to not role-play with them.) I see it as modified one lining. You're still blowing out posts real fast with action based role-play, but you give yourself just enough room to leave some description for the actions. You'll never see beautiful described scenes like you will in the longer lengths of role-play, but that's okay if you think about it anyways because if you're PLAYING a ROLE why in the world are you talking about the setting and scenery right? However flawed this logic is, it's a good reminder that as someone who resides in the "upper class" of the role-playing world I might actually be the weird one (which is probably where all my sympathy comes from).

Para to multi-paragraph role-play. This isn't as clear cut as to what it is. We could separate these groups into SEVERAL different groups if we wanted. I tend to think of these people as having a higher percentage of description per action but that doesn't always tend to be the case. Some people, in an attempt to actively avoid being a smaller set of posts, may have their character do nine or ten things in one post (and when I say things I don't mean, the slightest move of their arm, I mean complicated to simple things). So it can range from action heavy to description heavy. Lets be clear that I include dialogue under "actions" even though it's really not action heavy.

Okay, so what the fuck does that have to do with multi-people role-play? Well I'm gonna analyze among these groups which would be better for this and in what settings. So lets get started

ONE LINERS: I think that one liners are gonna have an easy time doing multi-player role-playing. You put very little time or thought into your post (maybe you put a lot of thought, I don't know I don't do one lining) either way it's probably not a lot of work. What this means is that you will end up short waiting time, so even if you have say ten people, you can react fast. However I feel like because of the very fact that it's one lining you'll have... very little room to react. I suppose that if they reacted to "all ten people" then they'd be getting into semi-paragraph lengths and it'd stop being considered one lining. However, in a chatroom this tends to work really well. I see it as ADD, you have people giving an individual post to EACH persons post. There is no order to it, you just post back and forth and it's probably gotta be very freeing. However, if you were to try to organize this I think it'd be an awful setting for multi-player role-playing. If we were to try and organize this into an email setting, it just doesn't even make sense... so it has no place there.

SEMI-PARAGRAPH: This actually I feel like is a good medium for ORGANIZED multi-player role-play. You have a conference set up, you each wait your turn for a post and do moderately long posts that can respond to each other post without having to wait to long. It's almost perfect. In a chatroom it takes on the same sort of feel to one lining, you can kinda ignore each person and do your own thing, but it's not as strongly oriented into the speed so it tends to be a little harder. I feel like this is best left in a conference. It could be organized into emails, but because of the nature of the speed and length it tends to be a pretty silly thought throwing it into the empty wait of an email.

PARA TO MULTI-PARAGRAPH: This doesn't belong in a chat-room in my personal opinion. It's fine to role-play either of these, but I've noticed that most of the time people latch on to one person or another and ignore everyone else entirely. This isn't the ADD of one lining where you jump back and forth, this is completely sticking to one other person. At this point it's not even multi-player, you just all happen to be in the same spot. It's not completely undoable in a conference and organized, it can work, but it tends to be this ridiculously long wait time. Now, wait time isn't a problem I can entertain myself doing other things, but if you had it in a conference people would want you to start posting the second a new post came in and if I successful distracted myself I probably would draw away from the role-play just as successful. What I tend to think is this belongs in EMAILS. Emails are a perfect environment because it's not like you're all having to be present during the role-play, it can be days before someone responds (but if I know my role-players, and I think I do, it won't be days). This tends to get into a territory that's almost not role-playing... except we don't control each others characters, which is each taking turns writing chapters in a book. It's a fun exercise which I've basically had no experience in because before I was so elitist I hated other peoples posts to the point where I chased of role-players in about two posts. To be clear, I'd like to try more now that I've gotten better about not caring how other people posts, but I haven't gotten to it. I'm busy busy busy. I will say though if you leave it to THREE players, a conference role-play can be achieved. Lets just hold someone's not the third wheel on a two wheeler bike.

So, here's the problem with what I wrote, these groups don't REALLY exist. Yes we all use them and yes we all try to stick to them, but people are fluid. Some people stick to the categories and some people move in and out of all of them. Some people are action based and some aren't, it's just not as simple as I laid it out. However, this can give you a good idea to not waste your time trying multi-player role-playing when it really just doesn't make any sense. I feel like this is a good time to look at WHY we have problems with having a general community as role-players (at least on yahoo). Since we have all these problems with being able to do multi-player role-plays, the role-plays tend to be one on one and very intimate. Beyond that, the intimacy tends to stick into private pms. In privacy being a total asshole, an emotional idiot, a controlling jerk, or an elitist snob tends to not leak out to the rest of the community well enough. I'll get into more in my next post as to WHY I think this really hurts the community, but before I talk about communities as a whole I want to further educate and explore online forums and bring that into the discussion.

Either way, happy role-play hunting
SuperCompoundRper

-kiss kiss-

Invisible to everyone

So, I have wanted to write a blog really thinking over the idea of someone going on yahoo chat and being invisible. Unfortunately, I’m currently dealing with someone who does this very thing. I hate to make a blog that will seem like I’m attacking this very person, and I won’t, but let me assure the reader whom I know will read this blog that this isn’t a personal attack. I’ve had this blog already in the making for quite some time and decided not to wait just because it’ll be criticizing behavior of someone who reads the blog.

So, on yahoo there is a feature that someone can do called “being invisible.” You’re online, you can interact with people, but they can’t see you on their buddy list. This is a nice feature for certain people, I suppose, and you can even come on and have mass invisibility. This last part makes perfect sense. Say you only want to talk to one person and so you mass invisible and just chit chat with the one person. However you’re almost defeating the purpose if you however stay invisible all the time. Although, I’m all for free country and free yahoo where people invisible all the time if they really want to, but really people? I don’t quite understand the point. All you do is invite people to pm you when you’re not on to check if you are on, which then if you don’t want to talk to them you literally have to ignore. IF you use it selectively, you get the power of turning off all pms because people will assume you’re off, if however it’s always on your letting them know that you’re invisible and they should expect you to be on even when it says you’re not (Which is always).  I can find one logical reason why someone may do something like this, which is to have power over the other person. You only ever get to have conversations when YOU want them. If someone pms you, you pretend you’re away (Like pretending you’re asleep in bed) and wait till they run out of steam. However, if you’re trying to have a friendship and you’re making it so you have all the power it’s not really a two-way street is it? It’s a one way street, you have ALL the power. I find it annoying when people who are really personal with me, sharing their ins and outs of their life and being really friendly, are always invisible. It’s not a friendship in my eyes; it’s broken the meaning of friendship.  However there are excuses which I haven’t listed that have been served up to me as possible main courses for my once every ten minutes meal of logical justification, which I don’t buy because well… they’re bullshit. Maybe. Here’s the first.

“I have a rp stalker.” Actually, this is the only real excuse, they all just kinda come in different variations of this. Now I can’t speak for the mechanics of things like ‘yazzak’ or whatever it’s called, but in yahoo this makes literally no sense.  So if you have a stalker there are many ways in which they can stalk you. The easiest route of course is to block them, but say you want to keep them around so YOU can decide when you want to talk to them right? Well, putting them on invisible individually will work that out. They may have other scree names, but you ARE invisible to other people who aren’t added. If they add you and trick you on another screen name you’ll find that, being invisible all the time won’t really help you with this…. They’ll realize that you’re invisible to everyone and just start pming you all the time. Really, just keep blocking them. Eventually they will give up. Breaking friendships by putting everyone on invisible all the time really can’t’ be worth it can it? I had someone I talked to once who insisted that I wasn’t their friend, even though we talked constantly and shared things about our lives. I couldn’t help but feel that we had different understandings of the word friend. However, this didn’t stop him from insisting that I could not call him friend. Friends were a close inner circle to him. This may be how you see yourself with your role-playing partners, but it puts you at a distance. Some people want this distance, others don’t.  Me personally? Well honestly I don’t’ REALLY care if I’m super close with someone, but when you act like we are and then put me at a distance with invisible to everyone it kinda makes me bitter. I suppose that’s my fault right? Oh well.

Sincerely

The Kind Bottom

Rape, it's use in yahoo chatrooms and the internet at large

I've reached my boiling point far to often on this subject, which I realize makes me incredibly biased. I wanted to ask though, what's up people? Why is this incredibly insensitivity happening constantly? Do people just not understand what the word rape means? Why am I constantly feeling I have to explain this? I figured I'd make this post and then shut up forever on this subject since no one seems to give a flying monkey's ass that people are using the word totally wrong.

So rape, is the non consensual act of sexual violence.When someone rapes another person, they're forcing sex on them without the other persons consent. In any circumstances were there is any semblance of consent, it's not rape. It might still be awful, for example when my ex pressured me into sex I didn't want and it really scarred me, but it's not rape. It might also be great for the two people, like when someone sneaks up on someone and starts touching them and the other person is promiscuous enough to return the feeling, but it's still not rape. So in short, people can't enjoy being raped. Some people might jump to the defense and say, what about the people who role-play rape in their bedrooms and online? But that's not rape, there is consent to it. They're consenting to letting the person act as if they're raping them. It's much less rape and much more a fantasy bastardization of it. It's really a psychological misunderstanding of what rape is. It's PRETEND. And although these people make an emotional response of queasiness in me (OR rather my over-sensitivity to the subject does), they haven't done anything wrong. It's not rape! I'll never role-play it with them, but I won't tell them they shouldn't. I'll just get queasy...

Now that we have an understanding of the lines of rape, so they're clear, we can discuss the incredibly ridiculousness of people in chatrooms of yahoo (and everywhere else on the internet). How often do I go into a chatroom and two friends who aren't really in a romantic relationship but want to express their appreciation of the other persons sexual attractiveness by saying "heheh -rapes so and so-" to which the person usually responds "-enjoys-." They've broken the definition, it's not rape if someone consents and enjoys it. A lot of the times people will announce this too! "It's not rape if I like it!" <-- No, you're right! Still it goes on. The people say rape over and over and over again till I get dizzy in the head. So what's up people? I don't quite understand the bedroom role-play and such, but I understand it enough to just kind of ignore it. This however I simply don't understand at all. My mind tries to wrap around this and I find myself nothing but frustrated and angry with little understanding. I suppose I could slap my all purpose 'people are stupid' statement on top of it and accept it as it is (This is probably what I'll have to do...), but I figured, I'd ask my readers what you think. Tell me, what's up people?

Happy rp hunting
SuperCompoundRper <3

OKAY, update on comments

In my last blog I asked people to please be more interactive because it made me sad that you weren't.... I apparently had restricted comments! Someone notified me of this (They will be forever loved <3<3<3<3) and now anyone can comment! COMMENT AWAY :3 I'm so fucking excited.

Sincerely
SuperCompoundRper