So it's about time at long last that we talk about the age old concept in role-play, sex. As I've said in a previous blog, much of online role-play might have been spawned from people coming onto the internet to role-play sex with each other. This is of course at least part of role-play, we see it everywhere. People deemed "cyberers" have been around longer than I've been role-playing or at least I've known about them before I knew what role-play was. I can remember particularly reading something someone posted about how he would mess with cyberes, saying he casted lightning bolt on the girl he was cybering with halfway through the role-play and she brunt into a fine dust cause she was only a level 2 druid. In fact, when I made a Gaia account that long time ago I was named "Level 2 Druid" because of it. People were very confused and condescending about it, thinking I was actually proud of being a level 2 druid in some game. Digression aside though, cyberes exist and have existed for quite some time! This shouldn't surprise to us though because sex is well, FUN. In the real world, online, in movies, sex never seems to stop amusing me as something I can participate in for fun (Although real world 1 on 1 sex is terribly scary for me because of consequences, even if I have participated a lot in high-school, so I tend to make it a 1 person activity rather than a 2 person activity). I rarely meet people who don't want sex to eventually happen in role-play. It's kind of this far off goal for everyone. "Well... I'm sophisticated, I want plot... not just sex." But if you were to really get down to the heart of it, they really really don't want plot without sex just as much as they want sex without plot. This however doesn't hold true for everyone, I've met a number of people who have had different responses, some of them so amusing I'm going to spend more than a minute talking about it.
The first one I'll spend just a second on, it's the person who is in a committed relationship and doesn't want to do sex in role-play because their sexual life is solely reserved for their partner. This, although I find very weird since I don't associate sex online being anywhere similar to sex in the real world, is respectable and my finding it weird is MY problem. The second is also respectable, they don't really enjoy sex in role-play so instead of telling their role-play partner "I WON'T ROLE-PLAY SEX NOT NEVER OR NO HOW" they just write characters that won't be interested in it. Wow, how smart, that's like I write characters that won't be able to not have sex with your characters eventually. This second person, although I rarely role-play with, is my favorite out of the no sex role-players. The third is the funny one, THE ANGRY ANTI SEX ROLE-PLAYER. This is a person who, at the mere mention of sex, has to scold you and ask you over and over again whether or not you're thinking of role-playing sex. I met this person (It's probably ONE person on the internet) and he was a very annoying individual. He explained to me that sex COULD NOT happen in role-play, so I said "that's fine I just like to role-play ^__^." Although I always want role-play to involve sex I could go a role-play where it didn't, fine tune the other types of description needed for the role-play to last. I however got the urge to look up sexy pictures on 4chan and typed in the address. OOPS, I typed into the pm, so what do you know he suddenly got defensive. "4chan can be seen as a sexual thing" was the response I got for typing in 4chan.org. "Well, it also cannot, I was just going to the site." "Well I'm just saying lots of people see it as sexual, I'd hate for you to ruin this and have to block you." (This is all paraphrased, it happened to long ago to remember who he was or what the actual conversation was.) So I blocked him, saying HE ruined his chances with ME since he was too focused on policing me for ever thinking about sex. I like sex, I'm gonna think about it... a lot. Him not allowing me to even think of sex means he can't role-play, it's just a given.
There's another topic though, which is people who only role-play sex. Many people categorize these people as cyberer's, this my be definitively correct, but the connotation that goes along with that isn't really fair is it? Cyberers, or at least how I've understood it, are people who are gonna open up a pm with "ASL?" or if not that they're gonna role-play themselves having sex with you in particular. I make the distinction that it's a very personal thing for the cyberer. This however isn't inclusive of people who do role-play in a sophisticated manor of non-one liner role-play. For example, I'm perfectly fine just having a role-play entirely based on sex. Homosexual male sex? Well not really, I don't find it that interesting, but lesbian and or heterosexual sex? AWWW YEAH, I'm down with that. That doesn't really make me a cyberer... I mean, to be fair, I do lots more than just that and usually don't want to do JUST sex rps. Regardless, there is this huge "movement" (I don't know that they're organized to even call it a movement, just half the people I talk to tend to give this fucking retarded speech which I'll talk about) of people who want to condescend on not only people whose connotation doesn't fit under cyberers but the cyberers themselves. I DO NOT agree with these people. There is a certain self righteousness with this whole "movement" which goes somewhere along the lines of "Well it's okay if role-play has sex in it, but it can't be ALL about sex, that's just juvenile." Why would anyone say this? Does this help them get role-play? In fact, with me, if I hear this bullshit I tend to not want to role-play with someone. I usually put up with it, but it does go on a mental list of reasons not to role-play with someone and if it becomes overflowing I'll dump you faster than.... I use the toilet? I don't know I don't have cleverness for that one (I wanted to do "I'll dump you faster than ____ dumped ____" where the blanks were famous people but... I don't follow the famous people at all....) Regardless if we further analyze this stinking pile of dogshit which is the self righteous idiots who wouldn't degrade themselves to a just sexual role-play (Which a lot of the time that's what happens when they role-play with me anyways) we'll realize there's some deeper problems here....
In an earlier post I talked about how role-players bitch all the time. This is a great example of one thing people actually bitch about. But why do they do it? It seems like a giant waste of time if you ask me right? Well I feel there are some things here. To start it's to feel better about their own role-play. Like many role-players, even if they get literally no role-play it's easier for them to blame EVERYONE ELSE for their lack of role-play (Some I suppose just don't get it cause they want you to shrink them down to the size of.... yeah... and have your character put them in your... yeah). These people don't want to admit that it's either their terrible role-play or their terrible personality that scares all the role-play away, probably along with a way too picky attitude. Regardless, being self righteous kind of fixes that because you've suddenly become the noble person trying to save all of the role-playing Dominion with their awesome role-play skills. Well there is kind of a reason for this that I can sympathize with and that is, the role-play community that seems to be the biggest (This is just from what I saw, not actual reliable data) is the CYBERERS. People LOVE SEX, and if you've ever heard the saying "sex sells" this is just another instance of that reality showing it's wonderfully successful nature. You know why people are rude about cyberes? It's because the cyberers are most likely getting more role-play then them and that DRIVES THEM CRAZY. If they're as sophisticated as they say and the cyberers are as terrible as they say then how annoying is it that the sex people get more than they do? Probably very. It's also though kinda expected right? The second you cut off a certain type of role-play means you're LIMITING your rp choices. I don't role-play rape, so if there was someone who role-played all the same things I did but also rape they'd probably get more role-play than I would right? Certainly the same can be said about cyberers if they don't "rp the sophisticated rp" then they're cutting that all off too... but again sex sells so they win. This is a LOSING BATTLE, people need to stop recruiting soldiers for a war against cyberers. Thiscondescending behavior will only create more hate in the world, it's a TOTAL waste of our time. Let cyberers have their fun!
There is however a more intelligent assertion that was presented to me once that I find might have SOME truth to it. It went something along the paraphrased lines of this "Well the people who pm me for just sex role-play tend to be worse role-players." I would agree. People who pm me all sexy up and only want sex role-play tend to be so focused on the sex aspect that they have a hard time focusing on the playing actual developed character and writing good scene description aspects. Lets face it, if you have one hand down your pants you'll have a lot harder time typing right? But jokes aside, this MIGHT have some truth to it. I don't really know if it is, but I do know one of the last people who pmed me with an outright request for sex (He wanted me to role-play a threesum with me role-playing two women) did not do a good job and I probably wouldn't role-play with him again. Regardless though, I role-play just sex role-plays and they tend to be less sophisticated than my other ones... Does this mean that it's not the role-player that is a terrible role-player or is it the act of role-playing just sex that brings down your focus on making better right? Who knows?!? Maybe I'm just outright wrong and all my writing is garbage... but thanks for sifting through the dumpster! Maybe you found something you liked :)
PS: There are other sex related topics that can go along with role-play that I haven't gone over. I'm gonna stop it here though because I could make whole other blogs on them and well, y'all been waiting for a post so here it is.
In an earlier post I talked about how role-players bitch all the time. This is a great example of one thing people actually bitch about. But why do they do it? It seems like a giant waste of time if you ask me right? Well I feel there are some things here. To start it's to feel better about their own role-play. Like many role-players, even if they get literally no role-play it's easier for them to blame EVERYONE ELSE for their lack of role-play (Some I suppose just don't get it cause they want you to shrink them down to the size of.... yeah... and have your character put them in your... yeah). These people don't want to admit that it's either their terrible role-play or their terrible personality that scares all the role-play away, probably along with a way too picky attitude. Regardless, being self righteous kind of fixes that because you've suddenly become the noble person trying to save all of the role-playing Dominion with their awesome role-play skills. Well there is kind of a reason for this that I can sympathize with and that is, the role-play community that seems to be the biggest (This is just from what I saw, not actual reliable data) is the CYBERERS. People LOVE SEX, and if you've ever heard the saying "sex sells" this is just another instance of that reality showing it's wonderfully successful nature. You know why people are rude about cyberes? It's because the cyberers are most likely getting more role-play then them and that DRIVES THEM CRAZY. If they're as sophisticated as they say and the cyberers are as terrible as they say then how annoying is it that the sex people get more than they do? Probably very. It's also though kinda expected right? The second you cut off a certain type of role-play means you're LIMITING your rp choices. I don't role-play rape, so if there was someone who role-played all the same things I did but also rape they'd probably get more role-play than I would right? Certainly the same can be said about cyberers if they don't "rp the sophisticated rp" then they're cutting that all off too... but again sex sells so they win. This is a LOSING BATTLE, people need to stop recruiting soldiers for a war against cyberers. Thiscondescending behavior will only create more hate in the world, it's a TOTAL waste of our time. Let cyberers have their fun!
There is however a more intelligent assertion that was presented to me once that I find might have SOME truth to it. It went something along the paraphrased lines of this "Well the people who pm me for just sex role-play tend to be worse role-players." I would agree. People who pm me all sexy up and only want sex role-play tend to be so focused on the sex aspect that they have a hard time focusing on the playing actual developed character and writing good scene description aspects. Lets face it, if you have one hand down your pants you'll have a lot harder time typing right? But jokes aside, this MIGHT have some truth to it. I don't really know if it is, but I do know one of the last people who pmed me with an outright request for sex (He wanted me to role-play a threesum with me role-playing two women) did not do a good job and I probably wouldn't role-play with him again. Regardless though, I role-play just sex role-plays and they tend to be less sophisticated than my other ones... Does this mean that it's not the role-player that is a terrible role-player or is it the act of role-playing just sex that brings down your focus on making better right? Who knows?!? Maybe I'm just outright wrong and all my writing is garbage... but thanks for sifting through the dumpster! Maybe you found something you liked :)
PS: There are other sex related topics that can go along with role-play that I haven't gone over. I'm gonna stop it here though because I could make whole other blogs on them and well, y'all been waiting for a post so here it is.
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