Sexuality and Gender you gay

So the other day I got drawn into a very short lived conversation about male characters talking in the lesbian chatroom. Although I couldn’t possibly understand why a male character would be in the lesbian chatroom and find it slightly obnoxious, it doesn’t in the least bit upset me. I kinda made this comment and someone responded:

“(I dont understand why herms and shemales get a pass for most 'gay' females on f-list, but that's all about preferences it seems.)”

I figured I’d enlighten this person and the rest of you, because it’s really simple.

But first, we need to understand sexuality and gender. Gender defines sexuality, since sexuality is what gender you’re attracted to.  So most people see gender as just a dichotomy, which is what sexuality has been predominantly defined as: Male and Female. In this dichotomy there are only really four combinations (if you include neither), you either only like the same gender, only like the opposite gender, like both, or like neither. Now this obviously is ranking categories instead of quantifiable ones, but if you quantified it into “Homosexual feelings, Heterosexual feelings” and you could fit it onto a continuum  (figure 1)or a graph (figure 2).

Figure 2

The continuum is just like two parts of the graph. The graph gives you more information, giving you more of “zones” of sexuality, also including asexuality in the mix (Which is why I like it better). Each zone gives you information about how much someone likes each gender, so maybe you have some heterosexual feelings but really it’s easier to label you as gay since you’d only go for the same gender in the end. It’s nifty! But back to the main event!

So what about Shemales? F/Herms? M/Herms? Cunt boys? Trans? Where do they fit into all this. Well I’d  put them on a continuum either defined by female physical attributes  or male physical attributes (Figure 3). The numbers, like the other figures, are all made up just to give a demonstration, none of this is collected data or quantified numbers based on a model.

So, this is all still based on the dichotomy. However, when we look at this, it shows us the problem. To make a continuum you’d have to still base all genders on the dichotomy, implying that the only true genders are male and female and the rest are mismatches of the two. However ignorant this may seem, it probably falls in line better with what’s going on biologically. However, I don’t really care to base it on the dichotomy biological reasons or not.

So back to the original questions, why do shemales and herms give a pass? Well, it’s because the sexualities are based on the two genders and as you can see there are MANY. You’d have to have more than just “homosexual and heterosexual” in fact, that doesn’t really tell us about the person’s gender. Cuntboys who like cuntboys would be “Same sex” interested right? But does that really fit the connotation we understand of homosexual?

So what you’d have to do then is to make MORE categories. Here are some examples:

Homomensexual: Man liking man

Homofemalesexual: Female liking female

HomoM/hermsexual: Male herms that like male herms.

Bicuntboy/shemale sexual: Only like cuntboys and shemales

And so on…

This is incredibly tedious and probably not so handy for the real world since they already have trouble being politically correct towards bisexuals. You also have to consider that some of these sexualities would probably never be touched… well, most likely they wouldn’t.

So…. Basically the reasoning for shemales and F/herms getting under the radars of gays is that…. Gay just isn’t a specific enough sexuality to encompass all the genderss listened on this site. How I’d like to look at it is that  if someone who posts themselves as gay that probably means they at least want a mostly female body. Cuntboys and M/herms don’t count under this understanding. However, as our original commenter said, it’s all probably preference.  That being said you’ll just have to learn each person’s preference on your own or convince F-list to make a sexuality system that encompasses all the genders…. I suggest the earlier route.

Sincerely

Player of Tillia Francisco